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Online Support Groups for Pregnancy and Infant Loss
When I lost Jay, I started looking in to support groups. I wanted to find other people who had lost their child during pregnancy, so that I could have someone to relate to. I was blown away by how many people have experienced pregnancy and infant loss. I did not think this was something that was “normal”, but I soon found out it was. I had always thought, if you made it past the first trimester you were in the clear. Nothing would happen because people only lost their babies during that first trimester. Even after our friends baby was stillborn at 39 weeks, I thought that was just so…
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Thoughtful Gift Ideas for a Grieving Mother
I have received many thoughtful gifts from several wonderful friends. Gifts are definitely not a must, but are very considerate. If you are looking for ideas on what to do for someone, here are some suggestions based on items I received that brought me comfort in some way. My school FamiLE brought a basket of goodies by when I got home from the hospital. It was full of snacks, magazines, crossword puzzles, and cards. They also sent a plant that I planted in my flower bed. Different people from my school and many friends of ours made sure we had dinner almost every night for the first two weeks after…
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Breaking the Silence-What do you say?
Everyone processes loss differently. No two people will ever grieve the same way. One thing is true, loss SUCKS! Losing a child through miscarriage, stillbirth, or really anytime is not talked about enough. I think this is because it’s so unimaginable. Children should not pass before their parents. A child should not die in the mother’s womb, where ithey’re supposed to be completely protected. I know some people don’t think a baby is a baby until it’s born. I challenge them to say that after they’ve seen or held their stillborn child, perfectly formed weighing only one pound. All lives really do matter. You may not know what to say…
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Happy Mother’s Day to All Mothers
Happy Mother’s Day to all of the women with children in their arms, miles away, in their heart, and in heaven. Today is a day that we honor all mother’s, but some remain unnamed because their babies are not here on Earth and were only here for a short time. I feel that all children should be honored, no matter when the loss occurred. Whether you only carried your baby for a few weeks, a few months, until the day of your due date, a few months after they were born, or years after they were born. We must continue to share our stories and break the silence. Our children…
