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Returning to Work After a Loss
When I lost Jay, I took three weeks off from work. I didn’t know how to cope with the loss, much less return to the classroom and teach. Everyone at school was so supportive. They brought food over everyday, sent cards, and messages with their condolences. My Assistant Principal contacted me about sending out a letter to the parents regarding my loss. The parents and students all knew I was pregnant, although I had just started in a new school district. I met them all at Meet the Teacher night, very big and 21 weeks pregnant. I do not know what the letter said, but it was sent out to…
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Why me?
Have you ever found yourself asking, “Why me?” I have a million times since losing Jay! It’s hard to make sense of the fact that God would allow you to become pregnant with a baby, but then take it away. I believe I am a good Christian. I believe in God. I believe that many who have gone before me are watching over me in heaven and taking care of my sweet Jay. I can see my grandmother rocking him to sleep and telling him all about the camping trips she took us on! I can see Sadie running around, playing with Jay. I see my grandpa teaching Jay how…
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Happy Father’s Day to All Fathers!
Happy Father’s Day to all of the father’s out there! I know how infant loss can affect mothers, because I am a mother who has lost her child. I am not so sure how infant loss affects fathers, I’ve never felt loss in their shoes. My husband was very strong for me. I have only seen him cry a handful of times in the 18 years we’ve known each other. One of those times was when we lost Jay and a few times in the months that followed. He was heartbroken, but I could tell he also felt he needed to be strong for our family. I hope all fathers…
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Wedding Dresses for Angel Babies
If you are looking to donate your wedding dress to a special cause, consider donating to The Wrapped in Love Project. A good friend of mine asked me if I knew of a place where she could donate her wedding dress; specifically, a place that would make outfits for babies who have passed. I really hadn’t thought about that much. I started doing some research and found Charlotte’s Purpose. You can send your wedding dress to them and they will make angel baby gowns and pockets for infants who pass before, during, or after pregnancy. I was honored when my friend decided to donate her dress in honor of Jay. …
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11 Books for Grieving Mothers
I’ll Hold You in Heaven: Healing and Hope for the Parent Who has Lost a Child through Miscarriage, Stillbirth, Abortion or Early Infant Death by Jack W. Hayford Jack Hayford is founding pastor of The Church on the Way. He uses scripture and refers to God often in this book to show that we will hold our children in heaven one day. I enjoyed this book and how it helped me think of God, even in the darkest of times. Grieving the Child I Never Knew by Kathe Wunnenberg Kathe Wunnenberg wrote this from her own personal experience. She had three miscarriages and a stillbirth herself, so the pain of loss…
