When I lost Jay, I started looking in to support groups.  I wanted to find other people who had lost their child during pregnancy, so that I could have someone to relate to.  I was blown away by how many people have experienced pregnancy and infant loss.  I did not think this was something that was “normal”, but I soon found out it was.  I had always thought, if you made it past the first trimester you were in the clear.  Nothing would happen because people only lost their babies during that first trimester.  Even after our friends baby was stillborn at 39 weeks, I thought that was just so…