Remembering Jay
Today is Mother’s Day. I first want to say Happy Mother’s to all mother’s, whether your child is with you here on Earth or above in Heaven. They are always in our hearts, even if they only stayed for a little while.
The March of Dimes Walk was about a month ago, but unfortunately was canceled due to some bad storms that went through the area. They do not reschedule this event. I was pretty bummed about it being cancelled because it’s our way to honor Jay every year.
I couldn’t stop thinking about the question I hear many loss mother’s ask, “How should I honor my baby?” This was always easy for me as we gathered with friends and family every year to walk in honor of Jay, Brianna, and all the babies gone to soon. I couldn’t help but feel that I wasn’t honoring him, because I wasn’t walking. He’s on my mind daily, but walking is a way to remember and have others remember with me.
After much thought, I decided we should do a butterfly release to honor him. My daughter is at a point where she loves insects and learning all about them. I thought is would be a good learning experience for her and our youngest son to watch the life cycle of a butterfly and then end with a butterfly release to honor Jay.
We started with tiny caterpillars that grew to a large size quickly.
Once the caterpillars got to their full size, they formed a chrysalis.
Out of the chyrsalis came beautiful butterflies.
We feed the butterflies and gave them water. They stayed in the butterfly habitat for a few days and then were ready to be released. I did not make a big deal of the release. I just told my children we were going to let the butterflies free to live in the wild. My daughter has asked about Jay a few times and I’ve shared with her who he was. My youngest son doesn’t quite understand. They were just excited to see the butterflies fly.
As they were released, I couldn’t help but think they would fly to heaven and give butterfly kisses to all of the angels.
I share this because I want people to know they can honor their child in any way. The question is asked often regarding how you should honor your angels. The answer is simple, how ever you want to honor them. There is no right or wrong way to honor your child. For me, it’s healing to remember Jay and share my journey with others. I’d love for you to leave a comment letting me know how you honor your angels.
Thank you for following me on this journey to healing.
